Never got to play with dad

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By george t

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  1. george t

    george t
    Old Lyme, CT

    The Father’s Day ads are starting to take a toll on me. Regrettably, I was all about baseball as a kid, fortunate enough to play into college. I was also a late baby, my parents were in their 40’s, and I guess couldn’t wait to be grandparents, so they started over.

    My dad passed when I was 22. From what I understand, he was a darn good golfer who was near scratch. He was also a hard working, self employed man who didn’t spare himself much free time. And probably the biggest issue, for those few times I grabbed a club as a teen, it was left handed.

    My dad saw me swing his clubs, and while they were opposite from how I batted, it didn’t feel totally foreign. His only advice, which I still cherish, “let the club do the work”.

    I was a dumb kid at the time, but John Lennon described it best: “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans”. At 22, my baseball career was over, and my dad had just retired; I thought I’d have plenty of time to tee it up and learn the game from my dad. Sadly, it never happened.

    I miss my dad for so many things more important than golf. But I’d love to learn more of those life lessons from him during a round on the course. Sons, daughters, mothers, fathers and everyone else, don’t share my regrets. Make your tee time for today.

    Love you Dad!

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  2. Doug E

    Doug E
    Urbana, MD

    Very nice expression of feelings. Relatable to many of us. And, a good lesson for all. Respect, man.
  3. Diego D

    Diego D
    Miami, FL

    Your words are inspiring and moving, George.

    Although my dad is alive, he is quite sick and he cannot play golf as he used to.

    I also regret not playing that many rounds with him when we was at his best; however, I have spent some quality time with him on the course and I am looking forward to our next time on the course.
  4. John M

    John M
    Aiken, SC Lakewood, NY

    A touching sentiment and I hate that you never got to play with your dad. My dad has been gone for 25 years and not a round goes by that I don’t think about him and wish he was still in my foursome. I think it was James Dodson in his book ‘Final Rounds’ that said ‘my dad gave me golf …’. That was certainly the case for my brothers and me. His lessons are with us every day, on and off the course. Life is short, enjoy the time with your family!!
  5. Guy W

    Guy W
    Statesville, NC

    I know exactly how you feel. My dad passed when I was 22 also. It's been 37 years since he left us. When I was younger I thought golf was boring and for "old" men. I was always too busy with other things. I remember seeing his clubs sitting in the basement. How I wish I had those clubs now. Anyway, I didn't start to golf until I was in my thirties. How wrong I was about it. I only wish now that I had started earlier so i could have enjoyed the time with my dad. So I agree, don't wait till it's too late. Enjoy your time with them while they are still here.
  6. Keith M

    Keith M
    Acworth, GA

    While I was lucky enough to play many times over the years with my dad, he passed away in 2007 just a few months before my oldest was born. A year and a half later, my second son came along and that's what hits me the most is that he never was able to meet either son.

    He would have loved the opportunity to play golf with his grandkids or watch my youngest take up tennis which he loved even more than golf.
  7. Abdon M

    Abdon M
    Northern California (because it's a big state)

    My father, who has since passed, was an observer of sports. We would attend professional football, baseball and basketball games when I was growing up. He introduced me to sports and I'm very thankful for that. I'm blessed with great kids and luckily they don't mind hitting the links their "old man."

    I sometimes think what it would have been like with my dad out on the course and I could see him being a great caddie with a huge smile on his face.
  8. Chris B

    Chris B
    San Diego

    I wish I could have one more round with my Dad.

    He was very serious about golf, was a scratch golfer, gave lessons, and taught the junior clinic. I spent a lot of time at the course with him when I was a kid, but although they are great memories, being a kid I cant say I really fully appreciated it. He took a leave of absence from his job as a math teacher to be the head pro at the course he gave lessons at and after about a year I think he went back to teaching and gave up on golf entirely, I was a freshman in high school when that happened. Randomly, several years later, he asked me to go to the driving range. He was still using his old blades with the lead tape on them to make them heavier, he was having issues swinging them and probably only hit half a bucket before giving me the rest. I mentioned the old clubs were too heavy for him now and if he wanted to play again he should get a senior set, graphite shafts, lighter, etc. He kinda balked at it and that was it. That was the last time he ever swang a club.

    A few years before he died I told him I played a round at the old course he taught at, he said he wanted to go and I was like you havent played in years, what do you mean you want to go all of a sudden? He said he could just chip and putt and hangout, I wish Id had taken him up on it....
  9. Frank P

    Frank P
    Port St. Lucie, FL

    Military
    My situation was similar to George. I was the last born and my parents were in their early 40's. My father was born in 1912 to emigrant parents and golf was not on the menu. Like others who's early working years were during the Great Depression from 1929- the late 1930's, he was busy trying to survive. He was a big baseball fan and living in NY, we went to my first game at Yankee Staduim in 1962. My Father lived to 91 and in his later years I took him to a Yankee Game every Fathers Day/ Birthday (his birthday was June 21st). I have to admit that I'm a little envious of the folks that are able to play golf with their Parents. So take a little advice and play some family golf when you can. We only have a so much time on this earth.
  10. COBrien

    COBrien
    Wisconsin

    I have played a lot with my dad when I first started golfing. It was fun playing with my grandpa, dad, and brother. Now that my grandpa has passed away I cherish every round and really enjoy playing with my friends and family.

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